It’s never easy to clearly demarcate the signs that differentiate a good boyfriend from a possessive one. After all, a tinge of possessive behavior is completely acceptable in every relationship, especially when you feel insecure.
So here’s a list of 4 signs to know if you’re dating a jealous and possessive guy. If you see a handful of these signs in your boyfriend, he may just be slightly possessive because he feels insecure now and then, or bordering on controlling behavior.
But if you see a lot of these signs in your boyfriend or husband, it’s time you talk to him about it because things will only get worse, and never better.
Possessive boyfriends are like a noose around your neck. Every time you give in, their grip only gets tighter *and their expectations from you only grows bigger*!
If you see several of these 4 signs of a possessive boyfriend in your own lover, point it out to him and help him see your side of the story, especially if it bothers you or if you feel controlled in the relationship.
Of course, your boyfriend will deny it or straight out accuse you of using these signs to make him look bad. But at the end of the day, if both of you need to have a satisfying and fulfilling relationship, both your expectations and wants from love need to be addressed and met. And if your possessive guy can’t change for you, or can’t stop trying to control you, perhaps it is best you walk away from him, or he’ll always expect more from you, all the time!
#1 Your decisions. He constantly wants to play a part in any decision you take. And he just can’t seem to accept it if you choose to do something he doesn’t approve of.
#2 His possessiveness is love. Every time you point out just how possessive he is, he defends himself by claiming that he’s possessive only because he loves and cares about you so much.
#3 Stalking. He stalks you or tries to find out where you are often when you’re out with a friend by calling you up out of the blue and telling you he wants to see you or meet you, or that he wants to pick you up.
#4 New experiences. He’s extremely protective about you, and doesn’t want you to do anything new without him. He behaves like your life is in danger when he isn’t around to take care of you, and sulks when you try something new for the first time without him.